Empty Nester

“Out out Damn spot”, cried Lady Macbeth, and I feel a little the same these days as I cast off the shackles of my old thinking and child rearing chains to embrace all that’s so new in our brave new world.

I used to love old, antique, shabby chic and although I still have a penchant for all things ancient, my day to day life is leaning towards minimalist, sleek, and easy to clean.

I don’t need a sizeable garden for cricket matches and footballs any longer. No! I’ve come to like balconies and views as far as the eye can see – with not a weed in sight being mine. I don’t need a country style, knick-knack filled kitchen with room for loads of visiting kids. No, I like high-end lighting and ergonomic kitchens and let’s get things straight. I really like eating out.

I would prefer to spend my so called ‘golden years’ in a relatively free state rather than shackled to the domestic hum drum. So I really don’t need a big house anymore. I would like to be able to jump on planes to visit my offspring who will most probably be living on far flung shores – oh and if tele-transportation is in the mix by then, I’m putting my hand up for that too.

These days I have a robot vacuum cleaner called Patience, and boy if there was a robot iron I’d buy it and call it Sylvester, as in beat-em up Stalone.

It’s easy as we get older to become stuck in a rut, coddled in our comfort zone and as nice as it may be it’s not going to keep us young at heart or keep the children close by – no matter how many cakes we bake or spare beds we keep made up.

Sometimes the charge of the internet completely fazes me with its noise and distracting commotion, a bit like the All Blacks in my face doing the Haka. And yet I can happily engage myself for far too long on Twitter, like a magpie, finding new sparkly tidbits to divert my attention at every click. “Did anyone say cake?”

At a blogging conference in Melbourne recently (PB Event) I met mostly, 30-something-aged bloggers, but there were some of us, a couple of decades, older making our presence felt amongst the young beautiful things. It’s all just a question of perspective. And Darren Rowse connected with everyone, old and young.

 

I’m often forced to take things one step at a time, my dinosaur brain linking the dots much slower than my children make the connections when it comes to all things technological, and the world out there is moving along so fast that keeping up in bite sized chunks is the only way. One piece of cake at a time. My 83 year old mother can do it – she regularly communicates with her grandchildren on Facebook. If she can embrace technology as an octonogenarian, then so must I make an effort to keep up with all that’s newly rising onwards and upwards.

Yip, as empty nesters if we get the chance to learn something new, do something different, travel somewhere exciting, then we must just go for it. What have we got to lose?

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  1. I relate to all that you mention, Jo. I find this new phase quite exciting. We might have been outnumbered in Melbourne but good on us for being there! The technical side is sometimes a bit tricky but one day we’ll make it as a techno-granny.

  2. Johanna
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    Thanks for replying, Jenny. Here’s to being really cool techno-grannies :) And long live travel and champagne!

  3. gabrielle cheater says:

    Speaking as ” a granny” I totally agree with all you say! I only wish and regret that I did not have the opportunity or the brainpower to do all that you recommend and whole heartedly agree that before you become too old and lacking in energy you must get on and do things, memlories are far better than regrets!!

  4. Johanna
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    Your achievements in keeping abreast with the techno world, and your energy for travel far supercede any pre-conceived notions of ‘granny-dom’. I think you are an icon and would be happy to follow in your footsteps as I get older. As for regrets, I’m sure everyone has a few but as you say, memories are so much more worthwhile.

  5. carol says:

    not quite an empty nester yet but the cheap traveller and art museum enthusiast in me relates, things that bore the average teen to death. Still think of that balcony we are to share one day Jo xxx

  6. Johanna
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    Ah yes I remember those days, dragging teens on cultural excursions, whinges and scowls from them, forcibly jolly commentary from me disguising my frustration. Then in a pantomime ‘Pooff’, it’s all over and they’ve flow the nest and you’re doing things all on you own. That balcony, by the way, is still in my mind too – vividly etched! Thanks for replying :)

  7. Dani says:

    Hi Jo, can’t really comment, but try to relate. Lovely thoughts and very well written.
    Hope you will include friends when you have reduced the size of your home and start travelling.
    Lots of love, Dani

  8. Johanna
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    Thanks for commenting Dani! Yes its been too long. Def need a catch up.

  9. Ariane says:

    Dear Jo, I feel for you. I’m a couple of years from a totally empty nest but the reality of my little baby boys flying away is getting closer and closer. At this stage my main purpose in life seems to be to fill the cupboards with lots of food, weekly cash injection, and above all taxi driving at all hours and yes, as you mentioned, I do all of that just too happily. Your choice of a beautiful trip to Bali seems to be the best way to assure family get together. Friends of mine already in this situation confirm that so long as the holiday is sufficiently exotic and expensive, our beloved children will come along even after having left the nest. So there you go: Switzerland in winter next year, the 4 of you will always be welcome….

  10. Hello Ariane, how lovely to see you here :)and thank you for your insightful comments. Yes, the lead up to them leaving can be as daunting as the separation itself, but I think your friends are right about the suitably expensive holidays luring them back to the fold! We had a great holiday in Bali all together, and look forward to when we can do something like it again … Who knows maybe Switzerland! Thank you so much for the invite -and of course the invitation is returned in equal measure if you return to Australia in the future. Thanks again x

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